"My best friend is trying it on with my girlfriend"

Question

My partner and i have been together for one month. She is great, really pretty and her personality is brilliant, but my best mate always talks about her saying im so lucky to have her! He phones her every day and talks to her as much as I do, and i don't really trust him because he tries it on with any girl he meets! I have argued my point to both mygirlfriend and my best mate but they insist that they dont like each other in that way and they are only friends! Am I being too paranoid? Or should I try some kind of test? Please help its really frustrating me.

Thanks,

K

Answer

This is a tricky one. There are two potential ways to look at this.

1. You're paranoid. Your best friend and your girlfriend hang out every now and then but so what? You love her, she loves you and this guy wouldn't be your best friend if he wasn't 100% trustworthy with your girls, would he? If this is the case, you need to chill out, enjoy the time you're spending with your girlfriend and show her a great time.

2. You're observant. You've seen what is happening here. Your best friend is ruled more by what's in his pants than what's in his head. You're only just getting to know your girl and you're not sure you can trust her yet. Hey, this guy is probably already banging her while you're not around. You need to find out exactly what is going on to put your mind at rest. Tell them that you're going away for one weekend when you know that they're both around and see what they get up to. Please note: This is a high-risk approach!

You also need to figure out why you're worrying about this. What has your best friend got that you've not got? Perhaps you feel a little insecure.? If so, work out why and see if you can correct things. There are issues of trust, too. You should be able to trust your best friend with your life, let alone your girl. It may be worth having another man-to-man with him and explain just how much of a problem this has become.

Let us know how you get on.